Family Mediation Practices

What is family mediation?

Family mediation is a process where a trained, impartial mediator helps separating couples reach agreements about children, finances, and property. The mediator doesn't take sides or make decisions for you – instead, they help you communicate and find solutions that work for both of you.

Mediation is usually quicker, cheaper, and less stressful than going to court. Research shows that agreements reached through mediation are more likely to last because both parties have been involved in creating them.

Do I have to try mediation?

Before you can apply to court for most family matters, you must attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). At this meeting, a mediator will explain how mediation works and assess whether it's suitable for your situation.

You don't have to continue with mediation after the MIAM, but you do need to attend one (with some exceptions, such as cases involving domestic abuse).

What can mediation help with?

• Child arrangements – where children will live, how much time they spend with each parent, handover arrangements
• Financial matters – dividing property, savings, pensions, and debts
• The family home – whether to sell, transfer, or continue living there
• Maintenance – spousal maintenance and child support arrangements
• Communication – how you'll co-parent and make decisions together

What to look for in a mediator

• FMC accreditation – look for mediators with the FMC's full accreditation mark
• Legal Aid availability – if you're eligible, look for mediators who offer Legal Aid
• Location and availability – consider whether you need in-person or remote sessions
• Specialisms – child-inclusive mediation, complex finances, international cases
• Languages – if you'd prefer mediation in a language other than English

Types of mediation

• All Issues Mediation – covers both children and financial matters in the same process
• Child-Inclusive Mediation – the mediator meets with children to understand their views
• Shuttle Mediation – you and your ex are in separate rooms, with the mediator going between you
• Hybrid Mediation – your solicitors attend the sessions with you
• Online Mediation – sessions conducted via video conferencing